Fertility Resilience
Navigating Setbacks and Success
This week let’s consider what it means to feel failed by your fertility. When you feel like all you want is to bring a sweet little one into your life but your body keeps saying no month after month. Negative pregnancy test after negative pregnancy test.
You are not a failure! Get that word out of your vocabulary. If there was one word I could ban use of it would be that word. When I look at life and our journey in life. I never see anything as a failure. ‘Failed’ a class… nope get to learn the material even better for next time. ‘Failed’ a marriage… nope got experience on what you want and do not want out of a spouse. I see everything as either success it worked or lessons to be learned. No such thing as failure. When you change how you look at certain situations that were ‘failures’ you get to see how different the situation truly is. Life gives you progress points, no end points until death that is. Continue doing what you have always done and get the same results or continue to evolve and create a different future.
If we believe that our body does not make mistakes in how it was created and any signs of symptoms we are currently expressing are ‘warnings’ if you will… what is your body trying to tell you. I heard Gary Vee once say that he thinks of absolute worst case scenarios for things and it is interesting to say I have before too. Late to a date, interview or work? Was there an auto accident on the way there… could that have been you? Not saying we need to always look at the absolute worst case scenarios…but what if your body is not broken, what if, for lack of better words, your 'infertility’ is trying to tell you something is wrong and if you did conceive your baby would come out with 10 arms and 3 eyes. Your body is not broken. Your body does not make mistakes. Your body does exactly what it needs to to keep you alive and survive in the environment you give it.
There is no shame in infertility. In today’s world it appears more and more common that couples face infertility. They estimate 1 in 5 couples experience infertility and the sperm count is expected to be down to 0% by 2045… I am still not saying any of this is normal, but increasingly common. Fertility is a sign of health.. However with it being more common there are likely things contributing in the environment to your health that you have not even considered could be affecting you overall wellbeing. One thing to consider about this would be; are you using lots of hormone disrupting products. Conventional products have been known to affect the endocrine system which produces the hormones responsible for sperm and egg…therefore pregnancy. Consider swapping your everyday products to less toxic products can greatly help this. It is near impossible to avoid them all together but making small swaps can help out greatly.
Think of it this way. Where focus goes, energy flows. Are you focused on all the negative what ifs? All the what if I can’t get pregnant? What if I lose the baby? What if I’m not ready to be a parent? What if…Are you focusing on what could go wrong or what could go right. Are you focused on what you can’t control or what you can control? Last week I mentioned deepening your relationships prior to conception. One of those relationships is with God. When you find yourself in fear mode… as yourself is this something I can control? If not, leave it at the door as you get outside and listen to your senses. What do you see, smell, hear, feel? Remember to breathe. Your mind and your health depend on focusing on positivity. Can you control whether or not you get pregnant? Certainly not… at least not naturally… but you can control having a healthy body that is ready to give your spouse healthy sperm or give the baby a healthy womb. So you can welcome a baby into the world.
You are soooooooo worthy and sooooo much more than your fertility. You are not defined by whether you have a child or do not have a child. If there is one thing I can offer you it is hope. I hope you know you are worthy of health. I hope you know you are worthy of pregnancy. I hope you know you are worthy of a child. I hope you know you are so much more than your current fertility situation.
Just some things to consider if you feel failed by your fertility
💕Dr. Ashley
Remember life is a journey not a race. With your health there are only progress points not end points. If you would like to discuss different ways to work on your health prior to baby please reach out. I have a 10 point assessment we can look at. To address your individual health needs. You can schedule a discovery call with me here https://calendly.com/creatingvibrantfamilies/
